Remember that life will never again be exactly the way it was before your loved one
died.

If you are expecting things to "get back to normal" after awhile, you may be disappointed  to
find that the new "normal" is not like the old "normal."

Your life will go on, but precisely because the person was important to you - it will not be the
same without him or her.

In the beginning it will seem as if your grief is running you, but in the end, you can learn to
run your grief.  When you understand what is happening to you and have some idea of what
to expect, you will feel more in control of your grief and will be in a better position to take
care of yourself, to find your own way through this loss and
to begin rebuilding your life.

It is perfectly natural to need time and space to honour your feelings, and the memory of
your loved one.  It is also normal for significant dates, holidays, or other reminders to trigger
feelings related to the loss.

It is not unusual for the painful emotions of your bereavement, to make others feel extremely
uncomfortable...to the point of feeling profoundly helpless.  Unfortunately, this may leave
you feeling isolated and lonely.

Your family and friends care about you, and are likely offer advice about what they think is
best for the grieving process. Listen to all the well meaning advice given to you but this is
your grief, it is your pain.  No-one other than you can work through your grief.  It is
incredibly important that you.....

Do what you want to do !
Do what feels right and most comfortable for you.
Life will never be same again...
Living with your loss....